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    January 27

    MS presents challenge for moms

     

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    MS presents challenge for moms


    Mom Pam Lahoda, 47, enjoyed being single too much to settle down in her 20s and 30s — career, travel, a busy social life. Her decision to wait means she's chasing two preschoolers around her Holland home as pals send kids off to college.

    Tough? Oh, a little, but the true test of her free spirit has been juggling not just motherhood but multiple sclerosis. The autoimmune disease presented itself when she finished nursing her younger child, now 3. A numbness settled into her back. There was trouble walking, a worrisome weakness.

    MS sometimes is invisible, often unpredictable. Neurological symptoms vary widely — fatigue, odd sensations, pain, blurred vision. It's different for everyone and hard to diagnose. A battery of tests finally confirmed the scary news for Pam.

    As we spoke in her sunny kitchen, she touched a rose quartz bracelet on her slim wrist. A gift from a friend, rose quartz is said to aid emotional well-being.

    Pam credits terrific support from her husband (he administers her weekly injections of MS-fighting drugs) and the care of friends, family and a tag team of helpers from St. Bede's Catholic parish for seeing her through.

    Still, only another mom with MS can understand what it feels like to be unable to brush a daughter's hair into a ponytail, to play trucks on the floor, to some days lack the strength to dress and lift the little ones who count on you.

    It's true, said Ruth Farber, associate professor in the Department of Occupational Therapy at Temple University's College of Health Professions. She's studying mothers with MS to learn more about how they cope.

    Her research examines the interrelationship of social support, well-being, health and mothers' participation in their roles when dealing with MS.

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    "There is a great deal of biomedical research on MS, but relatively little is empirically known on how mothers with MS are feeling and doing. The preliminary results suggest the importance of social support. ... Social support of family and friends can include providing tangible support, understanding, affection or people to have a good time with. Social support can contribute to the mother's well-being, which in turn to can further her connection to others."

    If you are a mother with MS (with at least one child under 12) and you're interested in participating in this study, contact Farber at 215-707-4880 or msmoms@temple.edu.

    Pam sought out other MS moms. A support group will meet at 3 p.m. the third Saturday of every month beginning next month at the YMCA in Fairless Hills. Kids are welcome. For more information, call Mechelle Connors at 215-870-2221.

    Mechelle, 38, of Langhorne, was diagnosed 10 years ago. She explains, "An MS mom is different. You just don't have the same mindset as others."

    She hopes the new group will talk about parenting — for instance, how much do you disclose to your child about MS? — and share ideas for coping. There should be lots of those.

    Farber says MS moms can be especially creative when it comes to being there for their kids. Heat, for example, can exacerbate MS symptoms. She knows of a mom who watches baseball games wearing an ice vest to stay cool; others who cheer from an air-conditioned car using a bullhorn.

    Sure, MS moms are different, but not so different where it counts.

    Kate Fratti, whose column appears on Monday, Wednesday and Friday, admires Pam's advice to others' dealing with challenge: "You deal better when you deal head-


     
    January 25

    Manatees...Memories...

    Recently my thoughts have been drawn to a time in my past . When I was a teen into young adult yrs. I lived in Miami and spent an enormous time in the ocean. The water was always my favorite place to be. Still is. My first encounter with the manatees happened when I was about 15. One came up behind me and playfully bumbed me in the water. Scared the daylights out of me! I thought I was under attack. LOL I started to swim away as fast as I could and she followed me. I turned she turned, I stopped she stopped. Soon we were playing a game of tag. This went on for hours. She came up to me and bumped me and I hugged her. We went for a swim together me holding on. I can not describe to you the feeling of content in the connection I made with this sweet animal. I left the area I was swimming as the sun was setting and returned with a friend the next day. She brought a friend also. The four of us played for hours again. She and her friend seem to know that we would always be back to play. Once they showed up tangled in fishing line. We untangled them. Another time they arrived and one of them had been cut. We found a vet to come Dr.

    This went on for years. They, the manatees, were my friends. One day they didn't show up I waited. Continued to return waiting on them, but they never did. I have always since deeply missed these gentle creatures. I have no idea what happened to them. I just hope they were safe, and not killed by a boat. What I would give to swim with the manatees again.

    Howling at the Moon

    Howling at the Moon

    My thoughts

    they call to you

    Oer the waves of time

    on oceans tide

    your cries wash over me

    Rip Tide pulls me under

    my mind now in review

    all that I was

    now all that I am

    the hope of you rings true

    lived on the waves

    this heart a maze

    through disaster

    confusion

    and pain

    You gave me the right

    to rule the dark nights

    the north star with its light to guide

    on yonder shore

    I see you now

    my heart and mind renewed

    the grasp of your hand

    now unravels the plans

    chaos ends in a flash

    thus before you I stand

    the fullfillment of plan

    I howl at the moon no more

     

     

    written by Lisa Smith

    ©2007

    January 23

    Knitting Comes Full Circle

    Monday, January 22, 2007
    Popular knitting sites and blogs:
    www.yarnharolot.com: Yarn Harlot, Stephanie Pearl-McPhee, talks about knitting. Her personal stories are entertaining yet step-by-step intensive.
    www.chicknits.com/rambles: The site features designs for clothes that mirror the 21st century comfortable modern woman. Chicknits is owned by Bonne Marie Burns of Chicago, who also hosts a blog within the site.
    subwayknitter.com: Boston resident "Colleen" offers rants and raves about knitting in public, advice and free patterns suited to New Englanders facing wintery weather.
    www.masondixonknitting.com: At Mason Dixon Knitting, two more traditional style middle-aged knitters, located on opposite sides of the country, share with one another their personal knitting stories.
    Twenty-somethings have taken their grandmothers' purls without even asking.

    They've stolen their knits, except instead of woolly and itchy like they used to be, they're baby-soft merino.

    Folks like 26-year-old Beth Taylor are rocking the knitting craze everywhere but in a chair. That includes restaurants, stores, bars and, of course, online. Yes, knitting has hit the blogosphere and social networking sites, too.

    Last week from her Brackett Street loft, Taylor gave her take on a knitting resurgence among her peers.

    "It's nice to get back to handmade things, and to feel connected to things in your life," said Taylor, walking over to the section of her bedroom reserved for her knitting. "It keeps us busy. It's something to do with friends rather than just sitting at the bar."

    She brought out a bright blue knitted bikini with big white stars on it, held up a pair of shorts, then a striped elf hat - Taylor originals.

    She pulled a neck-and-face-warmer combo, which she said keeps her warm on long bike rides, over her head.

    "I make weird things," she admitted playfully.

    In her knitting nook, among the sweaters, socks and baskets of multicolored yarn was something else she said her grandmother never used, yet there was nothing progressive about it.

    In her bedroom, under the window, was her very own old-fashioned spinning wheel.

    "I like starting from what other people consider trash," she said.

    Until recently, Taylor's hand-spun yarn was sold alongside other novelty yarns tucked in wooden cubbies covering the walls of the KnitWit Yarn Shop and Coffee Bar on Congress Street - a shop that opened four years ago.

    She stopped selling her yarn because it wasn't lucrative, though neither is knitting for a career, she said.

    "Now that knitting is so popular the yarn shops are more fun," Taylor said.

    They're also more expensive than they used to be. But the vibrant reds, deep charcoals, and trendy turquoises and pinks are calling Taylor's name.

    The color combinations are as endless as the textures - lace, silk, cotton and cashmere, to name a few.

    Beside them in KnitWit are racks holding hot reads like Vogue Knitting, Knit Simple and Knitscene, and popular hardcovers like "Debbie Stollers Stitch 'n' Bitch," which hit shelves in 2003 with the onset of the knitting craze. (Since the publication, a movement of "Stitch'n'Bitch" groups, where all ages convene to knit, have developed around the country).

    According to the industry group Craft Yarn Council of America, the number of women knitters between ages 25 and 35 increased 150 percent between 2002 and 2004. By 2005, celebrities like Cameron Diaz and Julia Roberts were being featured on covers of glossy knitting magazines.

    Knitting had gone from fad to trend.

    "To some extent, knitting is cyclical. But it's also part of a do-it-yourself trend," said Anna Poe, owner of KnitWit. "More young people are making their own things."

    Now, people of all ages crowd classes held at KnitWit, from basic knitting 101 to how to make cable and bobbles - that's when they're not crowding the Web. The newest addition to the knitting trend is knit blogs, which have surfaced all over the Internet and also offer pattern sharing.

    "Knitting blogs are especially popular. The Internet really pushed knitting forward," said Poe. "It's hard for shops to stay ahead of those trends being discussed on blogs because they're always changing."

    Possibly, the most popular is a blog by the Yarn Harlot (www.yarnharlot.com), who is also known as Stephanie Pearl-McPhee. Pearl-McPhee made a name for herself last year when she challenged nearly 4,000 in the knitting blogosphere to a knitting contest that lasted the duration of the 2006 Olympics in Torino.

    Other blogs include Buxton resident Jodie Foster's personal favorite, subwayknitter.com. "The Subway Knitter talks about how she isn't afraid to knit in public (taking every opportunity to knit in public is referred to in the knitting community as Guerrilla Knitting)," said Foster. "I follow about eight or 10 knitting blogs."

    Most recently, through a social network site called Meetup.com, Foster launched the South Portland "Knitaholics" group. The first meeting will be held at Panera Bread in South Portland tomorrow at 7 p.m., and then monthly.

    "Anyone can come. Just show up," Foster added.

    Others can sign up for the knitting group by searching "Knitaholics" on meetup.com or craigslist.com. Of course, other knitters like Taylor also pride themselves on finding knitting groups the traditional way.

    "One of the best things about knitting is getting to know the community centered around knitting in Portland," said Taylor.

    Taylor has established public knitting spots through word-of-mouth. In the past she frequented such events as the Fiddle and Knit group, once held at the Bramhall Pub on Congress Street. (The event, which was recently discontinued, encouraged knitters to come and listen to traditional old-time music sessions.)

    Taylor said she now knits at the Space Gallery, an alternative arts venue on Congress Street, or at Rosie's, a bar on Fore Street.

    She said she's shared her interest with public knitting with her friends, who have taken up the habit.

    "I'm a teacher by nature, so I've helped a few friends learn how to knit," Taylor said. Among them was her old roommate, a 26-year-old guy who most prominently defied the stereotype of an elderly knitter in her rocking chair.

    "He liked to make socks," Taylor smiled. "It was sort of a source of pride for him, being a straight man who knitted."

    Staff Writer Anna Fiorentino can be contacted at 791-6330 or at: